A man who remains calm when rejected signals experience and abundant options, which triggers attraction and can reverse her rejection. Cadence noted this: a calm response implies he really wants her and won't give up easily. This ties to "spinning plates"—dating multiple women non-exclusively. When a man has options, he maintains the aloofness women find attractive. Extended celibacy leads to neediness; having regular options keeps a man in the mental state where he actually succeeds.

Spinning plates means dating multiple women until commitment is explicitly discussed. Until a couple agrees on exclusivity, both are free to date others. The key insight: don't make someone a priority if they're only making you an option. Beta men often pursue one woman as their only chance while she fields suitors—then get bitter. But that's unfair; they hadn't earned her commitment. Women claim men don't commit, yet they're repelled by men who commit too early. Timing and earned status matter.

After sex, people's minds do strange things. Women often feel men owe commitment even though none was discussed. Men sometimes interpret sex as permanent availability. A generation learned sex-for-commitment is a failed strategy. Yet many women now view men offering commitment as beta—a signal of neediness. They want attractive men with options who won't commit to them to suddenly commit. It's scarcity psychology: people want what's held as unavailable.

In today's world, sex exchanges for sex and commitment for commitment—never one for the other. For women wanting monogamy, "no sex before monogamy" works because sex becomes intrinsic to commitment. Once sex happens, both parties risk the other deciding it was a mistake and exiting. That's the gamble of modern dating without hard-monogamy marriage structures. Chemistry gets tested in the physical realm; sometimes you discover it's just not there, even after commitment-level escalation.